Struggling to communicate in your relationship? Try these 3 things

If you are struggling to communicate in your relationship, it’s likely due to what you experienced growing up.


Chantel avoids conflict. Her parents fought a lot and eventually divorced. Then her mom married a guy who didn’t argue, he just wouldn’t talk for days.


How you deal with conflict is a pattern. Chantel learned to avoid conflict from her caregivers. “Fighting is bad, just leave the room.” Chantel wants to be able to communicate differently, but she doesn’t know how. She is stuck in a pattern that’s not her own-- it’s her mothers. And it’s making her miserable. It’s giving her the opposite of what she wants.


The good news about patterns? They can be broken and replaced once you see them. They began with someone else, but they are yours to break.


In this video I give Chantel (and you) 3 simple things she can do to catch herself when she withdraws (the pattern) and start to teach herself how to stay, to feel the tension and face it (new pattern).


If you feel stuck or trapped in some area of your life, I guarantee there is a pattern from your childhood to blame. Patterns aren’t personal, they are just… patterns. Break the pattern and you’ll free yourself. Pattern spotting, pattern breaking and pattern creating is how you break free from a life you don’t want to be living and start to create a life of your own.


Start here: what pattern of behavior is holding you back from being happy or self-expressed? Who modeled this? Start to break and replace it and you will not only save your relationships, you’ll reclaim your life.

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